so i randomly logged on to several different blogs yesterday. after the ski trip, i am able to put names and faces together...funny, but i find it somewhat intruding. an invasion of privacy almost. even though the blogger is a public forum, i still feel like i'm reading/learning about other people without them knowing. i guess the truth is, they wouldn't have minded in the first place since the day they hopped onto this wagon, eh?
so i guess certain people continue to go along with the idea of objectifying women as cars. hmm....maybe i'm just playing devil's advocate, not willing to give in, but somehow i cannot lay that thought to rest until i've had my fair share of thinking and tweaking at it. in the car ride home from tahoe, i was really just talking to "the minds" for the sake of debating and arguing on behalf of females. i knew something was not right in this comparison, but i wasn't sure what i felt and what i wanted to say (i admit) until this morning. i was driving down 280 (yeah, i know i work and live in SF, but i was running a personal errand...go figure!) and spending time in my lovely dependable, reliable, family-oriented, big-butt avalon gave me a chance to just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. going 55 on the freeway was unusual for me, but traffic was taking control, not i. so while driving and thinking, i was itching to find a keyboard to blog my thoughts down. inspired by Steven Ma, my lack of patience (those who know me best know i NEED to get to my destination) was soon diminished into nothing....his mesmerizing voice in the background soothed my otherwise irked feeling of being objectified. let me set this straight, i'm not offended, but somewhat unsettled by the fact that these people haven't put much thought into this, and they're basing this on stereotypes. it's a weak comparison and a weak argument. i will have to give them credit that it can come across as a clever comparison, but i think this is only valid as a "first impression" idea. you see a hot girl who's decked out, polished, with an air of i'm-ready-to-rock-your-world attitude...you think wow! she's the one i want to hang out with tonight...like that impulsive buy for the porsche. is she really high-maintenance though? how can you tell? maybe she was dressed up for a party? do not forget that she has a personality of her own...because she is HUMAN. why do people string stereotypes onto someone who they've just met at the beginning? a car is an inanimate object and "its" qualities are finite. can we put a price tag on a girl? can we accessorize a girl as we can...put spoilers, attach new rims, clear corners, and lower our civics? girls have a mind of their own. personally, i have done that myself...judge people at the beginning. you think, she's whiny, prissy, and very dramatic...better stay away from her roller coasters. maybe in reality, she was just having a bad day when i met her, and she's really a rather sweet, caring person who is NOT high maintenance at all. we often do that, judge someone based on the cover, our first encounter, our first impressions. i live by a motto of: do only what you want people do to you. maybe because i do not want other people to judge ME from their first encounter. we each have so much to offer, as an individual...i want to be creditted as bonnie, not average jane...or not the somewhat rambunctious-loud-always-in-jeans-type-of-girl. i want people to know me as who i really am. do you know me? have you taken the time to get to know me? as a gemini, i can be two-sided! i cannot deny that i judge people myself, but i've been working to improve that. because everyday, i learn something new about someone, whether he or she is a new or old friend. that's what makes life exciting...these societal stereotypes that interfere with our otherwise innocent minds...heck with them! pure your mind of unnecessary thoughts...until today, you may not have been able to hear what people are saying to you. just for today, close your eyes when you are in a conversation. HEAR every word that is spoken through the center of your and their hearts as well....
just my $0.02. just had to. =)
so i guess certain people continue to go along with the idea of objectifying women as cars. hmm....maybe i'm just playing devil's advocate, not willing to give in, but somehow i cannot lay that thought to rest until i've had my fair share of thinking and tweaking at it. in the car ride home from tahoe, i was really just talking to "the minds" for the sake of debating and arguing on behalf of females. i knew something was not right in this comparison, but i wasn't sure what i felt and what i wanted to say (i admit) until this morning. i was driving down 280 (yeah, i know i work and live in SF, but i was running a personal errand...go figure!) and spending time in my lovely dependable, reliable, family-oriented, big-butt avalon gave me a chance to just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. going 55 on the freeway was unusual for me, but traffic was taking control, not i. so while driving and thinking, i was itching to find a keyboard to blog my thoughts down. inspired by Steven Ma, my lack of patience (those who know me best know i NEED to get to my destination) was soon diminished into nothing....his mesmerizing voice in the background soothed my otherwise irked feeling of being objectified. let me set this straight, i'm not offended, but somewhat unsettled by the fact that these people haven't put much thought into this, and they're basing this on stereotypes. it's a weak comparison and a weak argument. i will have to give them credit that it can come across as a clever comparison, but i think this is only valid as a "first impression" idea. you see a hot girl who's decked out, polished, with an air of i'm-ready-to-rock-your-world attitude...you think wow! she's the one i want to hang out with tonight...like that impulsive buy for the porsche. is she really high-maintenance though? how can you tell? maybe she was dressed up for a party? do not forget that she has a personality of her own...because she is HUMAN. why do people string stereotypes onto someone who they've just met at the beginning? a car is an inanimate object and "its" qualities are finite. can we put a price tag on a girl? can we accessorize a girl as we can...put spoilers, attach new rims, clear corners, and lower our civics? girls have a mind of their own. personally, i have done that myself...judge people at the beginning. you think, she's whiny, prissy, and very dramatic...better stay away from her roller coasters. maybe in reality, she was just having a bad day when i met her, and she's really a rather sweet, caring person who is NOT high maintenance at all. we often do that, judge someone based on the cover, our first encounter, our first impressions. i live by a motto of: do only what you want people do to you. maybe because i do not want other people to judge ME from their first encounter. we each have so much to offer, as an individual...i want to be creditted as bonnie, not average jane...or not the somewhat rambunctious-loud-always-in-jeans-type-of-girl. i want people to know me as who i really am. do you know me? have you taken the time to get to know me? as a gemini, i can be two-sided! i cannot deny that i judge people myself, but i've been working to improve that. because everyday, i learn something new about someone, whether he or she is a new or old friend. that's what makes life exciting...these societal stereotypes that interfere with our otherwise innocent minds...heck with them! pure your mind of unnecessary thoughts...until today, you may not have been able to hear what people are saying to you. just for today, close your eyes when you are in a conversation. HEAR every word that is spoken through the center of your and their hearts as well....
just my $0.02. just had to. =)
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