words of wisdom from a conversation with my mommy...(well, okay, i put it in my own words...close enough)

look first into your heart and see what you find.
if you know or change what your heart desires, you will see changes in your actions.
if you see changes in the way you act, you will adapt to changes in your habits.
if you carry out these new habits, you will develop a new personality.
if you have a different personality, you will begin to see the changes in your path of life.